On Being Suicidal - 2

On Being Suicidal - Saat Sedang Ingin Bunuh Diri

In my opinion, suicide was like one of the most ultimate form of an illusory world, with other examples including living only the way someone wants to be - never thinking of what others actually feel and think about what they did in that world. Letting go of reality and ignoring it.

Maybe for those of you who's a sanguine, some of you might think that it's so irrational that someone would want to end his life with this life having so many happiness anyone can find if they want to. For the altruist you, you might feel pity to those who actually really did suicide successfully, if only you have met them before they died. Whilst for some of you who actually ever had this idea, maybe you're one melancholic person with memories of depression, you might really understand and I hope you might get opened up by this post.

Basically, there are four main points that I'd like to cover up in this post.

First things first, it's about the egoistical side of the doer. Maybe some of you might think, especially if you have someone close to you committed suicide, why're they so egoistic? Never thought of how we actually care and think so much about him/her. Nonetheless, he still did commit suicide (from a book that I read titled Me Before You). I think, yes yes they really sounds egoistic, but more than that, they actually needed help. While we might be thinking that way, but are we actually doing something that shows our care to him/her? Or we're just actually one part of his life who's making his life even worse? Who knows?

From a TED talk that I watched about one of the most famous popular place to commit suicide, the Golden Gate Bridge in San Fransisco, I learned something pretty important. The truth is, suicide can be stopped. The speaker, who's in charge of something like rescuer team, who talks to the guys who wants to end their life so bad, told this : "Anytime you see someone who started being suicidal, you've got to ask him/her straightforwardly. Other people who's gone through this(problem) usually have suicidal thoughts at this point. Do you have it, too?" If he/she answered yes, then I think it's pretty inhumane of us if  we didn't stop our life for a point just to help him/her out. You know, in my religion, saving a person's live means saving the lives of all mankind.

That's why, there's only one thing anyone who's talking to him/her needs to do.

Listen.

Do listen.

There was this one teenager who's about to jump off from the bridge. He talked with the TED speaker, and thankfully, in the end he decided not to jump. The speaker asked him then :
"What was it that made you come back and give hope and life another chance?"
He said, "You listened. You let me speak, and you just listened."

That's it, that's it!
Trust me. If listening was that strong that it can save one's lives, then I truly believe that listening can helps almost all the other aspect in our lives. It's such a pity that many people didn't learn to listen, they prefer learning how to speak rather than how to listen. I think that's a wrong way to do it. Listen first, then speak.

Lastly, did you know that suicide is contagious, able to be widespread just like disease?
I've ever read about it. In an online forum that seeks to support families, friends who's fighting something really hard that might make them depressed, sometimes to the point of having suicidal thoughts. There's this one idea, the idea of killing oneself to .. dunno, maybe to finish his/her own problems, that might stuck in someone else's head. Someone who had a relative/family that end his/her own life. This idea stuck and it was like becoming evil, seducing this person to finish his/her own problems by doing the same thing. As far as I could remember from that forum, this is real and happening. Suicide is contagious.
 
So, the conclusion is, if you ever see or listen in anyway, whoever it is, thinking about committing suicide, stop it with every way you have, with every access that you have to that person. In this cruel era where it's hard to find someone who listen, to find someone who has time for others, to find a real family, to find government and political people who do something out of their political interest, this is a super urgent call for you. Because you'll never really knows what might really happen then, you might never know when you saved this person's live, you're not only saved his/her, but the families and relatives who's supporting him/her too. Or even, you're saving yourself.

Thank you.

P.S. : Prayfor everyone who's struggling, for me, for anyone, may peace be in our soul by His Rahmah, Aamiin.

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